FLOWER POWER......It hurts.....

Well I am sure most of us will agree that "vulnerability exists under the shadow of certain strengths." Here I speak for those millions and Millions of "Career oriented women who are all Hard core professionals in our field of work, maybe successful even, and some of them have surpassed men in their respective fields. But.....when it comes to personal relationships some of us can’t help feeling that we have failed badly, though there might be no fault of ours. Well, first of all these intelligent women have to fight a stigma against powerful women.....Men would praise you for being intelligent , beautiful , sharp, witty, funny etc..etc....they may even respect you for the same , but when it comes to being in a position of power, all the beauty and intelligence is forgotten and you are being examined as an intruder into the Male domain called POWER. And once you take the coveted position there is only mud slinging, bickering, false accusations to look forward to. So there goes your personal equation with male colleagues

Well, lemme get back to the main topic here...so I was saying, the power women has not only to fight the stigma of being what she is, she is also made to harbour guilt for being so strong .Well, if you are unmarried and powerful, then you will be pitied for not being able to find a guy who can match your power, your status. Most men who come with the Power Tag attached, would love to go in for a docile homely wife, and some that want intellectual stimulation at home, would look for an intelligent, articulate and smart woman, whom they can show off, but one who would at least try to act as a second fiddle to them infront of their colleagues and the miniscule few who can handle equally powerful women are so rare that it is unlikely you could sieve them out of such a population of ego maniacs. So the only option is a lesser powerful mortal, who can handle a more powerful wife. And such guys are fine with such women, if fact most of such women seek the lesser mortals to avoid ego clashes, but then you have relatives harping on the fact that he earns lesser than you or isn’t as smart, then starts the tiff about why the girl had to be so overtly ambitious and not concentrate on building Home and family before it was too late....blah...blah...blah..... So the vulnerability springs from the guilt factor that is forced upon the poor Lass.She suddenly is forced to wonder if she is the one ruining all her chances for a happy life and a wonderful relationship, though she may seem this tough nut at the work place .Also she feels she has failed her parents for not being able enough to get a groom worth her "salt".....so there goes another relationship spoiler......bugger!!!!!

And if the woman in topic is married then Heaven help her coz then the so called well wishers would surely pity her Husband even if he happens to be in a more powerful position and if he is not then you cannot escape the bickering. A lot has been said about Men who cant handle more successful spouses, so lemme not get into that, but then, I personally think that this phenomenon is slowly decanting as, more and more men are able to handle Flower Power…thankfully…..but then there are always those rotten eggs…u know…and another dampening effect


Thus the seed of guilt is sown into the mind of the unsuspecting dame for not bothering about"more important" aspects of a happy life. At this point she is so vulnerable she is most likely to get hitched to a spineless nincompoop who may be just strong enough to hold her up in this moment of vulnerability but cannot handle her social status........so there so goes again, another relationship blunder.......



Then comes sibling rivalry, esp. if it is a brother.....the male ego hurts there, he may be all proud of his sister and all dat, but if he is for some reason not as successful, then he would secretly harbour these hurtful feelings which might be another let down......
So all in all her self worth takes such a beating inspite of being so successful, that she starts blaming herself for all the sour relationships in her life.......
No one understands that a strong successful women sometimes, " is also just a girl standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her".........She can be vulnerable too, like china in your Hands........Well "Notting Hills" dont happen all the times, do they......
Whew! So much apologising for FLOWER POWER!!!

What is in it for me???

Have you ever wondered how much importance a certain section people give to this line in their lives ...its as if this line decides the entire course of their lives....It is the
key factor for choosing friends(FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS), choosing Jobs, helping people...every single aspect of their lives governed by that teeny weeny little devil inside their heads asking" whats in it for me?"


Franky, the sorts make me snort in exhasperation.I recon it must be really tiring for people who always wonder about the "added benifits" before they even smile.I mean imagine debating with yourself about whether you should go ahead and shake your hand with the oblivious stranger you have just been introduced to when you have just a little over a split second to react before he might think you are rude. Well, am I kidding myself? The sorts dont even bother if they appear Rude to a stanger so long as he doesnt fit into the so called "Friends with Benifits" category.

The sorts might honestly think they are "Gods Gift to the dumbass world", but let me tell ya...even "friends with benifits can leave ya hi-nd-dry, when the the going gets tough. So watch out!!!!

Well, I dont deny the fact that all of us are looking to win some brownie points with important people around us, it is but natural.But that doesnt exactly mean that it should be the base of our friendship with them.

Mumbai is for "Mumbaikars"

All this hoopla about Mumbai for Maharashrians is such a disheartening episode in the history of one of the largest melting pots of the world.
I am not making a political statement neither is it some kind of a regional point of view, but just an ordinary citizens' disgust about the whole razzmatazz.I have been living in Mumbai for 2 years now and have been really amazed with the metropolitan culture of the city. Have noticed the warm smiles and pride of being a mumbaikar irrespective of their region, religion or even nation. Have noticed people from all walks of life amalgamate beautifully in the melting pot of varied cultures. They love their Mumbai, and would be always prepared to defend it to the hilt if anyone even tries hurt their citys' sentiments.Mumbaikars are a clan of their own, they do not belong to any particular community or Nationality or Linguistic group. They speak a distinct language of their own, carry a distinct attitude and tolerance which is exclusive to them only. Just hint them on even considering a change of location and they'll cringe. They love being where they are and would definitely not swap cities with anyone for anything.For me Mumbai always stood for strength and Oneness of the people in times of crisis (not to forget the 7/11 and the July 22nd Train Blasts). The best thing about the place is that the citizens are always there for one-and other. I have noticed that this " Non-Maharashtra’s bashing" hasn’t gone down well with Mumbaikars(when I say Mumbaikars , I mean Maharashtrians too).I know of Maharashtrains who are so hospitable and so ever welcoming. There is this Maharashtrian Colleague in my office who is such a warm person and always goes out of his way to make me feel more comfortable in this big city. Because I am an outsider and new to the metropolis, I used to have certain reservations about the city, but he always was eager to help me out with any information I needed about different places in the city, so that I get more comfortable here and still keeps reassuring me that Mumbai is not such a bad place to live in after all. So when the so called "disgruntled local community" is not disgruntled at all about accepting people from other states, who is getting offended may, I ask? Well it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to deduce this as a political Gimmick, I still wonder if trying to disintegrate the strength of the MumbaiKars is going to help them in anyway.There are people who are still strong about their defence for the city inspite of being someone form the victimized community, but there are others also who are left disillusioned by the city of dreams and all that it has to offer.I feel if there is any sentiment that the so called disgruntled localite group should express on so many cultures prevailing in the metropolis, it should be that of pride and their chest should swell on being the original inhabitants of such a beautiful canvas of cultures, instead they have taken a stance of chasing away ironically those very people who Make Mumbai what it is today.But for this khichadi of Cultures, Mumbai would not have half the charm it holds today.Hope realization dawns on those that are ignorant and we the mumbaikars start co-existing once again, like one big happy family.

This too shall pass!!!!!!