FLOWER POWER......It hurts.....

Well I am sure most of us will agree that "vulnerability exists under the shadow of certain strengths." Here I speak for those millions and Millions of "Career oriented women who are all Hard core professionals in our field of work, maybe successful even, and some of them have surpassed men in their respective fields. But.....when it comes to personal relationships some of us can’t help feeling that we have failed badly, though there might be no fault of ours. Well, first of all these intelligent women have to fight a stigma against powerful women.....Men would praise you for being intelligent , beautiful , sharp, witty, funny etc..etc....they may even respect you for the same , but when it comes to being in a position of power, all the beauty and intelligence is forgotten and you are being examined as an intruder into the Male domain called POWER. And once you take the coveted position there is only mud slinging, bickering, false accusations to look forward to. So there goes your personal equation with male colleagues

Well, lemme get back to the main topic here...so I was saying, the power women has not only to fight the stigma of being what she is, she is also made to harbour guilt for being so strong .Well, if you are unmarried and powerful, then you will be pitied for not being able to find a guy who can match your power, your status. Most men who come with the Power Tag attached, would love to go in for a docile homely wife, and some that want intellectual stimulation at home, would look for an intelligent, articulate and smart woman, whom they can show off, but one who would at least try to act as a second fiddle to them infront of their colleagues and the miniscule few who can handle equally powerful women are so rare that it is unlikely you could sieve them out of such a population of ego maniacs. So the only option is a lesser powerful mortal, who can handle a more powerful wife. And such guys are fine with such women, if fact most of such women seek the lesser mortals to avoid ego clashes, but then you have relatives harping on the fact that he earns lesser than you or isn’t as smart, then starts the tiff about why the girl had to be so overtly ambitious and not concentrate on building Home and family before it was too late....blah...blah...blah..... So the vulnerability springs from the guilt factor that is forced upon the poor Lass.She suddenly is forced to wonder if she is the one ruining all her chances for a happy life and a wonderful relationship, though she may seem this tough nut at the work place .Also she feels she has failed her parents for not being able enough to get a groom worth her "salt".....so there goes another relationship spoiler......bugger!!!!!

And if the woman in topic is married then Heaven help her coz then the so called well wishers would surely pity her Husband even if he happens to be in a more powerful position and if he is not then you cannot escape the bickering. A lot has been said about Men who cant handle more successful spouses, so lemme not get into that, but then, I personally think that this phenomenon is slowly decanting as, more and more men are able to handle Flower Power…thankfully…..but then there are always those rotten eggs…u know…and another dampening effect


Thus the seed of guilt is sown into the mind of the unsuspecting dame for not bothering about"more important" aspects of a happy life. At this point she is so vulnerable she is most likely to get hitched to a spineless nincompoop who may be just strong enough to hold her up in this moment of vulnerability but cannot handle her social status........so there so goes again, another relationship blunder.......



Then comes sibling rivalry, esp. if it is a brother.....the male ego hurts there, he may be all proud of his sister and all dat, but if he is for some reason not as successful, then he would secretly harbour these hurtful feelings which might be another let down......
So all in all her self worth takes such a beating inspite of being so successful, that she starts blaming herself for all the sour relationships in her life.......
No one understands that a strong successful women sometimes, " is also just a girl standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her".........She can be vulnerable too, like china in your Hands........Well "Notting Hills" dont happen all the times, do they......
Whew! So much apologising for FLOWER POWER!!!