TO HOPE OR TO EXPECT?

Sometimes i wonder, how simple would the world be if there were no expectations attached to people.......but is it really possible to live a life devoid of expectations.....

I know, what i am saying is nothing new, but i am sure most of you will agree....Expectations almost always puts you inside a pressure cooker situation, be it expectations from your kith and kinn or yourself (aint it funny that you always put the most pressure on the people you love the most.......wonder why???)

Take a marriage for example.....marriage is mostly about giving, i agree.....but you are also entitled to dreams of yours too.....I know people talk about unconditionality and "give without expecting in return"....but my take on the philosophy is that afterall we are humans and it is only human to expect....expectation only brings in the hope that you need to keep the relationship alive.....oh...i used the word HOPE( a new dimension here)....Well EXPECTATION brings the HOPE or HOPE brings in EXPECTATION....

Living without expectation kills you.......or should i be saying living without hope kills you...ok...i think the use of HOPE probably makes more sense......here is where i probably reel out my understanding of the difference between "EXPECTATION" and "HOPE" (and no, i am not just spurning out definitions from "THE OXFORD" or "CHAMBERS")........HOPE according to me is that tiny winy wish that is born out of some corner of the heart......and when the HOPE becomes more determined and certain then it is transfered from that little comfortable corner of the Heart to the BIG BAD ZONE called the HEAD, then HOPE becomes EXPECTATION.....Expectation is when you start believing that that little HOPE of yours is going to come true........ and when you start working towards it....

Is it such a bad thing to turn your HOPE into expectation.....not at all, what is bad is how you react to failure of your expectations........
thats what hurts you, i guess...well i am no one to talk about the sportsmanship spirit coz i am very bad at it myself, but ya,a stable reaction would help you to bounce back.....

Well, you cannot have much control over your expectations from others, but you definately have an upper hand when it comes to your expectation of yourself, so it is best to only HOPE when it comes to others and EXPECT when it comes to the self

i would always say HOPE, for there is no life without hope, EXPECT(from urself) , for there is nothing better than setting ur own standards.........and finally if the EXPECTED turns out to be THE UNEXPECTED, take things in your own stride........