ALONE....NOT LONELY!!!!!

What is it about Indian Men and their fascination for that "LONELY WOMAN". I mean the moment these guys happen to see a lady sitting alone at a restaurant or going to the movies alone, they start building fantasies in that dirty head of theirs.Sometimes the desperation reaches such fever pitch that it is impossible to even wait by the road or walk alone without inviting unwanted stares.

Is'nt a girl allowed to have fun for at least one evening without being looked upon as a prey to those wild and hungry eyes.

Well, there are these times when i just want to hop by the nearest bazaar all alone to buy some girlie stuff , and probably eat at a fast food when i get hungry, but cannot do so without scanning the crowd around and how they might react to a girl sitting alone and eating her food.Dont know what these guys must've been thinking.In most probability their mind must go like this" Hey, poor girl, maybe she haz no one to give her company and needs a Man , maybe i can give her some comfort and......."

You are in greater trouble when you go out to the theatre alone, they somehow pity you.Why dont men understand that there are times when we girls would rather be alone than hang about like just another arm candy to our men.I agree hanging about your man can be real fun, especially when the other guys give you dat look of jealousy but then being on your own and doing your own thing gives you a different kinda kick altogether.Most men might percive this to be an attempt to show that we are available, but no, this is just a defiance to the societeal norms that a woman always needs a man around her to be safe, methinks, doing your own thing screams INDEPENDENCE.

A lonely woman just about brings in as much negetive attention as a "SINGLE WOMAN " would. I have experienced this personally.Before marriage, many stray encounters with guys through friends or friends friends would somehow lead to unwanted SMS after the brief meeting and these unwanted SMS(Short missile services) and other overtures would come to an end only after I may "accidently" mention in a conversation that I am commited.Now, after marriage, whenever I am introduced to someone at a meeting of getogether, the similar missiles of overtures are hurled at me untill I have to again"accidently" mention an anecdote which includes Ganesh and refer about him as "MY HUSBAND".Sometimes I wonder if I have to change my middle name to MARRIED....come to think of it, even mentioning you are married will not go down well with these sorts, one has to clearly mention"HAPPILY MARRIED".Why do they assume that if a girl is SINGLE, she almost always is AVAILABLE.Heaven help you if you are a divorcee, coz then they always assume you are an EASIER LAY.

Sometimes, I wonder if it is the fault of some of our Species who might somehow send out the wrong kinds of signals and allow some men to take advantage of their Status but after pondering over that I can only conclude that it is only Men to blame for their Perceptions, coz if a woman had to give wrong signals, she could do so even if she were married, so men have no right to generalize the entire fraternity of single women as "READY TO MINGLE".

I think Men have a long way before they evolve into finer HOMO SAPIANS, and understand that they should not make obscene overtures untill and unless they get the some kind of a signal.GROW UP MEN AND LEAVE US ALONE!!!!!!!!